What Becomes of the Brokenhearted?

In the 1966 hit record, What Becomes of The Brokenhearted, Jimmy Ruffin sings:

The fruits of love grow all around

But for me they come a tumblin’ down

Every day heartaches grow a little stronger

I can’t stand this pain much longer

I walk in shadows

Searching for light

Cold and alone

No comfort in sight

Hoping and praying for someone to care

Always moving and goin’ to where


Jesus was sent to heal the brokenhearted. He opened the scroll and read of himself saying:


“The Spirit of the Lord God is upon Me,

Because the Lord has anointed Me

To preach good tidings to the poor;

He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted” Isaiah 61:1


Jesus doesn’t want you living the above lyrics to the song. He gave his life that you might do the opposite. He wants you to be like a tree planted by the rivers of water that give fruit and are prosperous. He’s come to heal your heartache. He wants you to come out of the shadows and into his marvelous light. He is a comforter. He cares for you and wants you to cast your cares on him. He wants to lead you in paths of righteousness for his namesake. Line for line, Jesus is the answer to what becomes of the brokenhearted.


What becomes of the brokenhearted?


When their hearts are opened, they are healed.


I had a gaping whole in my heart. A space carved out with my mother’s name on it. I tried to fill that space with many things but they never quite seemed to fit: too big, too small, wide angles, sharp corners. They just didn’t fit. But thanks be to God he is a father to the fatherless and a mother to the motherless.


What does he want you to do in order to heal your broken heart?




Open the door to your heart so that you can be healed, whole and loved.


Walking into a grocery store with my 4 year old was torture as the Valentine’s ‘eye noise’ was unbearable. He asked me, “Mommy why do they have Valentine’s Day everything? Mommy it’s too much cookies and candy and balloons.” I told him he was right that I love him and his siblings and his daddy so much everyday that we didn’t need to buy pink cookies to let them know we love them.


And the Father loves you more than that. He doesn’t have to dangle trinkets in front of your face that you’ll eventually discard. But every day he sees you, chooses you, knows you and calls you. Today, respond to him. He’s wooing you. His love is magnetic; it just draws you in. Don’t try to repel it, but like the strength of a neodymium magnet, be drawn in and fused together.


If you are brokenhearted for whatever reason, it will hamper your ability to love unconditionally. For more on agape love click here. Your capacity to love agape is only unleashed when you’ve 1st received from Him who loved you 1st. You cannot give that which you do not have. So Jesus is simply waiting for you to say yes. Perhaps you’ve said yes to let Him be your savior but have you said yes to receive his unconditional love for you? He is down, on bended knee. Imagine him as he was when he washed the disciples’ feet. He was modeling for us humility, servant hood and above all love.


If we are to experience the fullness of his resurrection power in our lives, we must accept that we are loved by him. We have been crucified with him yes. Now we have new life all because he loved us and freely gave himself for us.


I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me. Galatians 2:20


If you receive his love for you, won’t you tell him today. Below in the comments you can write your response to receiving his love. If you have challenges receiving his love, you can share that too so I can pray for you. If all the Valentine’s hoopla causes you more pain than joy, share that too so I can pray for you. In fact, right now I reach out to you with a big virtual hug. Can you feel it? The Lord’s got a hug waiting for you too.



In The Secrets of the Secret Place, Bob Sorge says this of our communion with the Lord:

He initiates, we respond

He gives, we receive

He impregnates, we bring to birth

He leads, we follow

He loves, we reciprocate

He rules, we reign with Him


Lord, I say yes. I open the door to my heart. I come running to you. I love you Lord.


To God be the glory for all that he has done.


As always, it is my prayer that you’ve been Inspired To Live Fully!

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15 replies
  1. Tina M Wright
    Tina M Wright says:

    Valentine’s Day is so much more than the commercialized picture of love we are presented with today. Our first and last true Valentine laid down His life for us to bring us healing. Thank you for this beautiful reminder, Tyra.

    Visiting you today via #DanceWithJesus 🙂

  2. Susan B Mead
    Susan B Mead says:

    He doesn’t have to dangle trinkets in front of your face that you’ll eventually discard. POWERFUL words, Tyra, yet we remain powerless when we expect trinkets instead of His Truth.

    Someone said this week, we don’t have to pray for forgiveness–He’s ALREADY given it to us. We choose to accept it…or not. Wowowow!

    Thank you for sharing your words today at #DanceWithJesus. Susan

  3. Abby McDonald
    Abby McDonald says:

    Amen, Tyra. I’m so glad we don’t have to fully understand the healing process; we just have to be willing to receive it. His Holy Spirit does the work in us and through us. This is a lovely post and so many need to hear this message. Thank you for sharing.


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