Does God Want You To Have Fun?

Ok, sometimes, actually most times I think I’m just a bit too serious. My life necessitates it; lots to do for lots of people. This requires me to have laser focus and to carry out affairs in militaristic fashion. Then couple that with my A-Type personality, perfectionist nature and being a borderline Pharisee, leaves a sister little room to even think about fun, recreation or pleasurable activities.


The Pharisee in me thinks, “My God is a God of order. He is a God of rules. Just get the work done. Maybe you’ll have time for fun later”. But then God dropped this in my spirit, “Your denial of pleasure wasn’t imposed by me. It was self-imposed. Lighten up and have a little fun.”


Can it be? Does God want you to have fun?


I denied myself nothing my eyes desired;

I refused my heart no pleasure.

my heart took delight in all my labor,

and this was the reward for all my toil.

Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done

and what I had toiled to achieve,

everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind;

nothing was gained under the sun.

Ecclesiastes 2:10-11


My heart’s cry is to not meaninglessly toil, in an effort to serve the Lord and obey Him, yet do so with joy. I do carry out my work cheerfully as unto God. Still, in my working, living, moving and doing I am a vibrant BEING who should have fun BE-ing. It’s not as if I’m trying to imbibe in the pleasures of the world such as riotous living, I’m merely talking about granting myself permission to do things that are pleasurable. This has been a constant struggle for me. You can read more about that here. But God is helping me by continuing to reveal His truth. And He is showing me that fun; joy and delight are all close to His heart. He is showing me that my family would be blessed if I allowed myself to have more fun.


Jesus said in John 10:10 The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.


Life more abundantly sounds fun and lively to me, not stiff and always so business like. Let me just stick a pin here and say, I do have lots of fun with my children. They think I’m silly and funny. I like to make jokes with them, do silly dances and I always threaten to embarrass them at school with my funny antics; it’s allowing myself to have fun, be joyous and experience pleasure in things that are just for Tyra that presents a problem for me.


Does God want us to have fun?


Delight yourself also in the Lord,

And He shall give you the desires of your heart.

Psalm 37:4


Again, seems to me like God wants holy, righteous, delight, and joy and for us to have fun that is rooted in Him.


You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.

Psalm 16:11


God Has Fun


I can only imagine God creating man and creating the heavens and the earth. Sure, it was serious business, but to play in the dirt and create man ….Mmm that must have been at least a little fun. Children love having fun playing in the dirt ’til this day. God himself delights in you. He also works in us to will and to do for His good pleasure.


God Created Us With Pleasure Sensors

God gave us our senses to relate to the beautiful, wonderful world He created. The pleasure sensors allow us to actively engage with Him and with others.


God Encourages Us To Have Fun

While the Word cautions us against riotous living, we also see many examples in the Word of people engaging in pleasurable activities. From David dancing undignified to feasts and celebrations, folks were having a good time. When the prodigal son came home they killed the fatted calf and proceed to have a PAR-TAY!!! God encourages fellowship among believers. So should I feel bad if I want to enjoy an evening out with a girlfriend sharing laughs and having fun?


God has granted me permission for pleasure. And step-by-step I’m giving myself permission to accept it. Last year I went on a week vacation with my husband, our 1st time away, just the 2 of us in 12 years. We hadn’t been away since before we had our 1st born. Before going I really wrestled with the decision to go. Even up to the week before I had guilt about leaving my children to do something fun. I had crazy, twisted thoughts like, “A good mother doesn’t abandon her children”. What?! But I know these thoughts stem from my childhood. But I thank God for walking me through the process to free me. And indeed that vacation with the Hubs was one of the best experiences in my life.


So I’ve declared that this is the summer of fun! I am granting myself permission for pleasure. I will go out to dinner with a friend just for the sake of laughs and fun and not feel guilty about it. I will go to a concert and dance and sing.


And right after I made this declaration to myself, my 6 year old daughter asked me randomly out of the blue, “Mommy what do you like to do for fun?’ I was so taken aback since I’d just gone through this whole dialogue with the Lord about this. Then I had to think on it for a while. I’ve denied myself fun pleasurable activities so much, I couldn’t quickly think of what I DO like to do for fun.


And wouldn’t you know, after making this declaration, I received a phone call. A friend has invited me to an all-day Jazz Fest. Oh what fun! But my 1st thought, “Oh, I can’t go.” But no, It’s a new day. I’m going AND I’ve given myself permission to be excited about it and to have fun. Thank you Lord for permission to LIVE FULLY!


A merry heart does good, like medicine

But a broken spirit dries the bones.

Proverbs 17:22


As always, it is my prayer that you’ve been Inspired To Live Fully!

Happy to connect with friends at Life Giving Linkup Purposeful Faith Women  With Intention Dance With Jesus Grace and Truth

9 replies
  1. Kelly Balarie
    Kelly Balarie says:

    Tyra, I have pondered similar thoughts and asked similar questions, so this post was really intriguing to me. God created fun and he never called it a sin. He calls us to delight as you mentioned. I am ready to have some more fun right with you. Thank you for lightening my heart. Cheering on today from the #RaRalinkup on Purposeful Faith.

    • Tyra Lane-Kingsland
      Tyra Lane-Kingsland says:

      Please follow up with me in a week and let me know what fun you’ve given you relabeled permission to enjoy. We hold each other accountable in our Christian walk. Let us also hold each other accountable for ENJOYING life 🙂

  2. Steph
    Steph says:

    I struggle to do things just for myself as well…but it’s so important! The better we take care of ourselves, the better we can take care of all the other important people in our lives!

  3. Winter
    Winter says:

    So excited for you! My in-laws divorced shortly after my husband and I married so I grabbed onto this way of living very young. I didn’t want to lose who my husband and I as a couple were or who I was. I do still feel guilty about longer trips away but you come back so refreshed that it is worth it! Keep going and embrace this new season of life!! Visiting from #lifegivinglinkup

    • Tyra Lane-Kingsland
      Tyra Lane-Kingsland says:

      Jesus himself encourages us to “come away for a while”, so no need to feel guilty. But it is a learning process. I’m eagerly looking forward to the fun we’ll experience as we embrace living fully. Please keep me updated.

  4. Christi (@ChristiLGee)
    Christi (@ChristiLGee) says:

    You and I are kindred spirits in this struggle. So many of your words ring in my ears as well and it has been a battle to get to the point of giving myself permission to simply play. Thanks for the reminder and the thoughtful reflection on God’s nature and His desires for us.

    Embracing the Journey!


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